As we all know by now, it is not only what we eat that creates good health. It is how we approach all aspects of our lives. Is it possible that maintaining a positive attitude can create fantastic health? This subject interests me, partially due to its increasing popularity and also from personal experience. This subject can become slightly tangled when people boil it down to: think positive thoughts, and you will get what you want. I mean, that's true... but there's more to it. Here's an example:
Jake has an interview tomorrow morning for a job he really wants. He doesn't think he will get the job, and he is extremely nervous about the interview. He spends the entire night beforehand worrying about the interview and barely gets any sleep. He realized in the morning that, because of his incessant worrying, he forgot to wash his shirt, so he ended up having to wear his wrinkled dirty shirt to the interview. With tired eyes, he ran out the door and hopped into his car, completely forgetting to eat breakfast. His behavior and demeanor made a bad impression on the interviewer, and because of the materialization of his fears and worries, he did not get the job.
Alex, on the other hand, applied for the same job. The night before his interview, he washed and ironed his clothes for the next day, relaxed, and brushed up on his notes. He was sure he was going to get the job. He went to sleep on the early side, woke up, ate a wholesome breakfast, and went to the interview before the scheduled time with a clear mind. Alex got the job because he made a good impression.
Both, Jake and Alex, had the same qualifications for the job, but due to their varying mental states, one was hired and the other was not.
Alot of this may seem obvious, but it is SO powerful! In my opinion, many of us get 'trapped' in the cycle of negative thinking. It's almost like we are on 'auto-pilot' when it comes to our reactions to certain stimuli in our environments. I encourage you to experiment with RESPONDING, rather than reacting. If your thoughts towards something or someone are negative and you feel YOURSELF getting stressed as a result, see if you can think the opposite. A very good yoga teacher of mine once said, "When thinking negative thoughts, think the opposite." Seems easy, right? Even if you do this just once and catch yourself when you are tangled in the mess of negativity, I assure you that you will feel lighter and happier. After all, a negative mood or negative thinking are both a CHOICE we make as individuals. Noone can PUT you in a bad mood.
Another example: If I offered a bowl of rice to a rich man, he may look at me with disgust and tell me that is not enough food for him, or not the right type. He may suffer, because he is not used to eating that.
If I offered the same bowl of rice to a beggar on the street, he may bow down to me in deep gratitude, for that is the first meal he has eaten in three days.
How we view our external circumstances is all relative.
Another important point is the fact that positive thinking and negative thinking are both highly contagious. Have you ever been somewhere and someone entered the room and you automatically felt a wave of dullness or fatigue? It's possible for a person's negative energy to create a negative mood in his or her surroundings. The same goes for the opposite; imagine a person full of joy and vigor entering a room. There's no need for that person to speak, for his or her body language most likely displays an upbeat attitude. How can you frown and be negative when you are surrounded by joy and love?
What can you do TODAY to start the 'positive process'?
Look for a good role model. In India, it is common to have a 'guru', or teacher. Find someone you know who is doing what it is you would like to do, and ask him/her how they go about it. Follow in their footsteps, yet remain unique in your own nature.
Try some positive self-talk. Every day, create affirmations for yourself. Affirmations are uplifting words that describe you or your mood. I love writing affirmations, such as "I LOVE MYSELF", or "I AM ABUNDANT" and posting them on my mirror so I see them when I wake up in the morning.
Get support for your healthy habits. Tell your family and friends about your goals, and get them involved in supporting you on your journey.
Reward yourself. Go out with good friends, get a massage, take a mini-vacation, and honor yourself for your grace and effort.
Have a plan. Write it down and be clear. Having an enjoyable plan can increase motivation to complete tasks.
*According to Dr. Caroline Leaf, communication pathologist, toxic thoughts are like 'poisons or abcesses'. Leaf has been studying the brain since 1981 in order to reveal how negative thinking patterns can hinder proper brain function.
"There is a point in your brain called the "free will" and it is a genetic structure, there is genetic code. You can use that free will to accept or reject incoming information. So if you are controlling your thought life, you don't have to just receive all of the input that is coming in from the outside world, from the media, from the external and also from your internal world; we;ve got alot of existing toxic memories in our head, everything from birth to death is stored in your brain. So you're going to have information coming from the outside, from the inside, and it all meets at this point of the free will in the brain. You can make a decision at that point to accept or reject that information. If you decide that this is not good for me and you actually analyze that thought and say, this is not good for me, this is not healthy. You can reject that thought and it goes out and becomes heat energy. It actually becomes hot air and it doesn't become part of you. But if you choose to think about it, if you choose to meditate on that, if you choose to ask, answer, discuss, analyze to give meaning, you push it into these memory trees of the mind, into the memory circuits, and once they're there, they're there for good. Once they've moved into what neuro-scientists call the magic trees of the mind, once they're there, they're there for good, you can't get rid of them. Then you've got to rebuild, and that's the renewing of the mind. Much more difficult to rebuild than it is to reject. " -Dr. Caroline Leaf